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Why You Should Speak Kindly To Your Kids

By Katherine Thompson

Kindness is your ultimate solution for your parenting problems involving kids who rarely listens to anything you say. When you speak to children with kindness, you will have a greater chance at getting their attention and keeping their interest in everything that you say.

Although your child will understand the things that you say as well as the tone of voice that you use to imply your feelings at the moment, they will often get the wrong message and think you are targeting his entire being instead. But when you speak softly to your kids, they will quickly respond to your requests.

But in order for you to maintain a positive sense of communication with your kids, there a few techniques that you should put to practice. The first technique is by choosing and using gentle words. Are you familiar with the old adage, “If you cannot say anything nice, then do not say anything at all?” Aside from making sense to life in general, this also applies to parenting as well.

You have to realize that kids are sensitive creatures, and they live to please their parents and the other grownups around them. That is why it is recommended that you use gentle words like “please” and “thank you” as much and as often as possible. Through these words, you will create a positive atmosphere at home as well as have the assurance that your message gets across right.

Another thing to remember is the tone of voice that you use whenever you speak to your kids. There is no need to sound like a fire alarm just to get your child’s attention. In fact, research has it that both adults and kids respond to positive messages that are said in a pleasant tone more quickly than in shouting. Yes your kids will get the message if you lose your temper, but instead of talking they will try to avoid you all the more.

If you want your kids to listen to you, use a friendly voice. That means no shouting and no yelling. Yelling to your children, even to your spouse, will only bring tension and bad vibes in the house. But if you talk to your kids more respectfully, you will have a more peaceful home.

But perhaps the most important and the most difficult task that every parent should think about when disciplining their kids is transforming criticism into compliments. Teaching your kids right from wrong should be inspired by the right intensions.

Criticizing children will make them feel like failures. But through encouragement and compliments, they will not give up easily and will strive to be successful in life. Use encouraging statements like “Keep going, you’re almost there”, “I’m impressed with your efforts”, and “You are getting the hang of it now, good job.

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