After The Affair – Is Your Marriage Worth Saving?

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Many people question whether to go on with their relationship after the affair. It is hard enough to work on a marriage that is good, let alone be left in a wake of betrayal and destruction after learning that your partner has cheated.

The devastation of being cheated on causes a whole list of negative thought and feelings. You may feel that breathing is difficult at times, and not getting your partner to open up to about the details only makes things worse. If you are thinking about ending the marriage or relationship altogether, first you should ask yourself a few things.

Statics have shown that 60% of husbands and 40% of wives will have an affair at some point in the marriage. Of these marriages, only about 35% of them will NOT divorce. Although these number may seem bleak, there really is hope if you truly want to work to save you marriage. Surviving marriage after infidelity is very possible if you first look at what you are willing to do, then see what your partner is willing to do. Ask yourself these questions to determine where each of you stands.

You must find out is the affair has ended, for good. Also be sure the cheating partner is ready to do the work with you to save the marriage. Willingness to attending counseling to discuss the issue is a must for both of you, and your spouse must especially be willing to be humble in this trying time. Your partner is responsible for showing their desire to change through actions, not just though words.

Are YOU willing to do the work as well? It may not feel like it now, but your spouse is not in control of this situation or your feelings. Feeling vulnerable and insecure in this moment is normal, but you do have the ability to decide to make the effort to save the marriage after infidelity. You have a tough road ahead, but you can overcome the negative thoughts, images and memories and then you can learn to build your self-esteem back up and rebuild trust with your partner.

Asking these tough questions does not mean you will have the answer right away. Talk them over with your partner, decide together that this is what you want and need. The trauma and pain of the affair and deciding how to move forward are all the beginning steps in recovering from infidelity.

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