An Important Part Of A Happy Marriage Is Knowing Who You Are And What You Like

By Maria Jose

This sentence was the subject of a spirited song from the earlier days of rock and roll by a singer who called himself, The Big Bopper. It was named “Chantilly Lace”. In the song, the Big Bopper (Jay Perry Richardson) describes in this baritone voice how his young girlfriend walks and speaks and dresses and how much her childish actions please him and make him act giddy. The words of the melody are really wild. He says, “Ain’t nothin’ in the world like a big-eyed girl to make me act so funny, make me spend my money, make me feel real loose, like a long-neck goose, like a girl. Oh baby, that’s what I like!”

I had not ever heard of chantilly lace but it certainly seemed to turn this guy on. It makes one ponder why human beings love what they love. My brother often utilizes this Latin expression from ancient times, “de gustibus non est disputandum”. It means, “in matters of taste there is no accounting.” After all these many years, isn’t that the truth and isn’t it a great thing?

Did you ever find someone to be extremely appealing to you and, for some reason, you can’t figure out the reason? Perhaps they weren’t beautiful in the traditional way (symmetry of attributes, clear skin, etc.), nonetheless you still considered them deeply pretty.

On the other hand, have you ever studied the final contestants in a beauty contest and not found any of them to be particularly gorgeous? The wonderful news is, we do not have to give explanations for why we like a thing or dislike it. It’s simply a matter of personal preference and does not have to satisfy someone else’s standards.

Here’s another interesting truth; knowing what you like is a large part of being aware of who you are. If you share all the things you enjoy with others, you are permitting others to get to know you. It additionally allows them to know how to satisfy you, should they ever feel like doing so. They might give you what you like one day. Do not fret over whether what you like is not what others will like. As long as you do not assert that what you like is correct or better than what others like, nobody will have a problem with accepting what your tastes are. Discovering what you love and expressing that to other people has another benefit. It makes you feel happy.

That’s one of the reasons why I like the Big Bopper’s song. It makes me smile. He so shamelessly KNEW what he liked and he didn’t mind saying it three times in his tune!

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