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Can I Save My Marriage

By Sarah Lexington

Marriage counseling has been utilized for a lot of years for good marriages and bad ones. For successful marriages, it is often credited for making them even stronger. For troubled marriages, it is usually tried as a last line of defense, when the marriage is in serious crisis. You may be wondering if you can save your marriage at this point even after counseling has failed. If your partner desires a divorce, then you have a lot of work to do. But rest assured, it can be done!

I have never been a big proponent of marriage counseling as a final resort for trying to save a marriage relationship. The vast majority of these “marriage experts” were actually trained and earned their degrees in individual therapy. So their perspective nearly always comes from that of the individual. I believe that this is a faulty model to work from. A much more effective way to treat the problem is to treat the marriage itself rather than the individuals. When approached in this way, the marriage literally becomes the client rather than the couple!

It is a fact that traditional marriage counseling only has about a 20% success rate in saving marriages! Would you choose a doctor who only had a 20% success rate? Most people would not! Given this statistic, it is probably no wonder the divorce rate is so high. The saddest part of all about our divorce rate is that most of these divorces never even needed to happen. Many of these marriages most likely could have been rescued, if only the correct plan had been utilized.

Here is some great information I want you to find out about if you desire to save your marriage after counseling didn’t work:

1. It’s important that you replace the emotional state that you’re in with a much more resourceful emotional state. You will need to behave calmly and rationally, even removing as much emotion as humanly possible from the situation.

2. You will definitely have to stop blaming either yourself or your partner for the circumstance. It is counter-productive at this point to be concerned about who did what or who said what to whom.

3. You must become 100% dedicated to do whatever it takes to save your marriage, especially if your mate desires a divorce. If you don’t take the lead, then who will do it?

4. Time is NOT on your side right now. Your immediate actions over the next few hours, days and weeks of this problem will probably determine whether or not the marriage can be rescued. Waiting and hoping will doom your chances.

There are some useful things you can do to prevent your marriage from falling apart. When it comes to Saving A Marriage the methods you will find on the following page can provide you with the advice and info you need to assist the situation you’re going through Click Here.

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