Knowing that one has a cheating husband is a difficult matter to handle for an average woman. Knowing further that your husband is a chronic cheater and has difficulty of getting himself reformed is a different matter altogether.
For those who are in this same situation, they feel as if there are only two options available for them.
1) Leave their husbands and strike out on their own.
2) Have their heart protected so that they won’t feel much of the pain.
Leaving isn’t appealing to most women. Marriage isn’t something the average woman takes likely. But there are many different reasons that women stand by their cheating husbands.
So, how do you guard your heart so that his cheating doesn’t cut you to the quick every time you find out that he’s cheating on you again?
1) Remind yourself that he keeps coming home to you. This might not be a huge comfort but every small comfort you can come up with is a good one when you’re hurting.
2) Ensure that every time he is with you it is as pleasant as possible for you both. There is no need to punish yourself just to let him suffer also. That will definitely hurt you both and would tend to create a bunch of spears that will be thrown back to your heart. Always make it a point that your memories as well as his of the time you were together are pleasant ones.
3) Identify the reason for his cheating. It could be that these other women are providing him with for that inner need that he is not getting from you. This does not mean of course that you are lacking in some ways, only it could be that he never get the chance to ask you to give that to him. Instead of viewing them as competition learn from these “other women” and seek opportunities to be better.
Avoid building walls around your heart or making yourself emotionally or physically unavailable to your husband if you want to have any hope of staying together and working things out in the future.
What those actions can get you is just the breeding resentment on his part and giving him that validation (however unsubstantial it would be) for his cheating acts.
Instead, open your heart to him in a way you haven’t in a long time. Show him the love, adoration, admiration, and respect he saw from you back when you were dating.
Offer some huge incentive to want to be with you and give up those other women. It would be hard to believe but it will definitely work to keep his shoes inside your bedroom and yours alone.
Stop trying to protect your heart from your husband’s cheating and figure out how to get your husband back on track for a solid and faithful marriage. It can be done. If you want to supercharge your efforts you’ll need to begin with this one thing: http://www.getyourexbacknow.com/just_break_up3.html.
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