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Traditional Roles And Duties For Your Ring Bearer And Flower Girl

By Aaron Hu

Weddings are a lot like theater shows- big events filled with lots of sets, props and staging. While they rarely have a cast of thousands, it’s not uncommon to have at least a few hundred people involved in the event, with dozens playing more involved parts. Between the parents of the bride and groom, the bridesmaids and groomsmen, the best man and maid of honor, as well as ushers and hosts, there are a lot of individual roles to direct. That isn’t even counting the two roles that can be either the hardest or easiest to manage- the ring bearer and the flower girl.

The first thing you need to understand is exactly what the different duties for the two roles are, and what to expect. While they seem like pretty cut and dry parts, it’s important to approach them from the right perspective.

To start, the ring bearer tends to be a young boy, though it’s not entirely uncommon to have a girl be the ring bearer. While traditionally there is only one ring bearer, you can have as many as you want (though it’s best not to go overboard and choke the aisle. Their main responsibility will be to walk down the aisle after the bridesmaids have proceeded. Sometimes they will walk with the flower girl, sometimes they will walk before her. They will carry the ring pillow, on which sit the rings. The ring bearer pillow doesn’t have to be anything fancy, though it’s a good idea to get one specifically for the event as they will tend to be sized and shaped appropriately for the task.

The ring bearer should be young as they are traditionally a child, but they should be old enough that they can interact with adults they don’t know, and old enough that they understand what their job is. If the ceremony isn’t particularly long, then it’s traditional to have the ring bearer stand up with the groomsmen.

The flower girl, as the name suggests, tends to be a girl but there’s nothing wrong with having a boy fulfill the role. Once again, it’s fine to have as many flower girls as you want, within reason. Flower Girls tend to wear sun dresses or other age appropriate clothing- there’s no reason to doll her up in a miniature gown.

During the ceremony, the Flower Girl will walk down the aisle either with the ring bearer or immediately following him. The bride traditionally follows the Flower Girl, as the flowers pave the path for her. Like the ring bearer, it’s a good idea to choose a girl who is old enough to understand what she is doing, and to interact with the other members of the party without feeling too shy or uncomfortable. As the ceremony proceeds, she can sit at the front with the bridesmaids, or she can sit with her parents if they are near the fron of the seating.

The most important things to keep in mind for both the Ring Bearer and Flower Girl is making sure they are young enough to play the part, while still being old enough to handle the situation. While it’s not the most stressful position to have at a wedding, it’s still understandable that a child who is too young or too shy may feel overwhelmed by everything that is going on- especially as they are likely to be the center of attention of photos at least a few times over the course of the day.

Aaron Hu has authored on an extensive range of topics related to the wedding industry. If you are looking for ring bearer pillow, has the biggest selection available. You will also find Wedding Favors and much more, all at very affordable prices.

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